What you need to know is that of all the judgments in life, none is more important than the one we have of ourselves.
Drama has never been far from my door mainly because other people's low self-esteem has affected my life in lots of ways so losing mine was a real blow as I found being in a cycle of perpetuating self-denial debilitating as it manifested itself in behaviors that made life worse in terms of feeling obliged and trapped in situations that I couldn't escape from easily. The good news is I did break free after building my resilience and it pays dividends when you get it right as learning to be the bigger person by moving away from drama can help you focus on what you really want in life. The world can be a scary place at times so feeling okay about yourself is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself and strangely enough for others because there's a calm strength that comes with being able to cope and that's what we are here to help you achieve.
Healthy self-esteem relies on taking responsibility for the part you play in just about any situation, sounds sensible doesn't it but when you're in crisis rational thinking is not high on your list of attributes and you'll tend to blame and think you're entitled to what can seem unrealistic to others and this can lead to feeling like an imposter.
People who have a good sense of self-worth find it easier to cope simply because they are able to be clear with others about their needs and their journey in life, their relationships are nourishing and equal and they feel more ambitious in a career or financial sense and they are able to emotionally, intimately, intellectually and creatively express themselves well when they have to respond to others in a given situation.
So how do you go about being able to conduct yourself in this way? Well, like anything it's a process so we're here to help you explore firstly where your fear comes from and how you can confront it so you're able to cope with challenges when they present themselves and set goals that challenge you.
I'm not going to pretend that it will be easy to move away from your current mindset because you may have found that you're leaning towards behaviors that create excitement such as infatuation or risk taking which can feel addictive but if you want to work towards a place of self-respect then you will see that you will no longer need the worry and anguish that these situations bring so you can go forward in all aspects of your life with a renewed sense of self and purpose.
I lost my self-esteem when after many years in a challenging relationships I was made to feel unworthy and consequently, I lost the ability to protect myself. As this needed to change, I set about looking at why this had happened to me, and even though I was inspired by some people in real life, I discovered that my personality would inevitably attract discord from certain people and my then lack of assertiveness was mirrored by movie characters especially when it came to intimate relationships. And as the final outcome for the characters was that of empowerment I challenged myself to act in the same way which was interjected with coaching until I got the result I wanted which in a nutshell has meant that I've lost the urgent need for validation because I feel okay about myself again.
Why work with me?
I've learned to change my approach and that's exactly what I want for you because if you're open to seeing yourself differently then this will have an effect on how others see you and this experience will set you free to make better choices and help you achieve your goals.
I'm a qualified movie therapist, mentor, and life coach who'll give you the tools you need to succeed so you overcome the barriers that you and others put in your way. I've worked with a diverse range of people by helping them increase their self-esteem through the support I received from organizations such as Wirral Mind and The School for Social Entrepreneurs where I graduated from as a fellow on the Innovators for Health program.
And if you want to have a go at doing it creatively by tapping into movies then this can be incorporated into any of the sessions you wish to take up, just ask at the time of booking.
What others say...
"I would recommend Lynn as a supportive and skilled life coach with an empathetic approach which has enabled to develop the capacity to find solutions to issues" NM - London
" Creative way of thinking about my life and where I'm heading" JH - Liverpool
"It inspired me and I came away feeling confident, optimistic and determined to achieve more things in my life" SH - Wirral